I had a conversation recently that honestly has me puzzled at the double standards shown by people. I was talking to a lady - straight, married, one jr high age daughter. Down the street is a lesbian with a daughter in the same grade. The complaint was that lesbian and her partner hug and kiss in front of the kid and they sleep in the same bed even though they are not married. Yet the person telling me this lived with her husband before they got married and I am willing to bet they hugged and kissed in front of the kid and most likely even other peoples kids.
So the same behavior in a same gender couple is inappropriate while it is perfectly acceptable in the opposite gender couple. And, mind you this is behavior taking place inside the home. I was stunned into not being able to comment at the time. I am a very affectionate person - my whole family is. Hugs and kisses are how we say "hi", "i missed you", "i love you", "good to see you", "take care", "good-night", "I'm happy for you", "I'm sad for you", "I wish I could help", and anything else we can think of. I don't censor myself about hugs and kisses like that. I am a lesbian but I don't give any thought to hugs and kisses with anyone I care about no matter what gender or sexual orientation. As long as the other person is comfortable with that level of affection then I'm good. There is nothing sexual about it.
I find it completely ridiculous that the whole issue was that the lesbians daughter would find it okay to kiss another girl... wow - if the daughter should turn out to be gay she won't have to go through all the self hatred and stress of trying to come to terms with discovering you are the worst kind of different a person can be. That would be a total shame wouldn't it?
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nice post. well said. :D
ReplyDeleteYou should tell her that if she is so worried about them being affectionate and not married that she should vote yes for gay marriage.
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